Need information about joining

[Anonymous]

I am 19 years old and considering joining the Navy. I have been told that youcan't join if you are a single parent and if you have a medical condition. Ihave a daughter that is almost 1 year old and I have an under active thyroid.My daughter does not live with me and the father lives about 1 mile away fromher. She has lived with my aunt ever since she came home from the hospital andhe has no problem with that. What advice would you give me so I can get in andfurther my education because I can't possibly afford it based on the amount ofmoney I am making now. I have heard that I will have to give up custody to thefather in order to get in, please tell me that isn't true because he doesn'thave much to do with her now as it is. What would happen if I just told themthat I don't have a child and what if they find out after I get in? pleasereply soon. Sincerely, Tami



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TPotirala@aol.com

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Tami,Hi, I read your message, and I wanted to let you know to talk to your recruiter if you have one.**If you don't want to commit yourself just yet, try either of these sites.**One is a Navy Online site, and the other is the E-mail address you'll find on that site.**I used the site to get one of my questions answered and they are very quick about it.**Try either www.navy.mil/nol/ or navyonline@ncts.navy.mil they are Navy, and they will find the answer to your question.**My advice would be to not hide the fact that you have a daughter.**It is true that you have to give up custody, but I believe it is only for the time you are in training.**Boot camp and the advanced training you will be in after boot camp.**I'm not positive though.**I also am not sure about having to give custody to the father.**If he agrees, you may be able to give custody to someone else you trust, like your aunt or parents.**Like I said, I'm no expert, you'd be better off talking to a recruiter, or sending an E-mail to that address.**I wish you the best of luck in everything and hope everything works out for you.**Feel free to E-mail me at JAD_DOYLE@yahoo.com, but I'll only be here until Monday the 19th.**I leave for boot camp Tuesday the 20th.**Good Luck!Jessica



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JAD_DOYLE@yahoo.com

[Anonymous]

Dear Tami,If your aunt doesn't already have legal guardianship of your daughter you can make her the legal guardian.**My mother is taking legal guardianship of my boys so i can enlist, their father, my mother and i**agreed that it was in their best interest since she lives in the same school system, has more space, etc. I started this process in July and am still waiting for the case to go to court.**The laws may be different in your state but if everyone is agreed that your aunt is the best person to have your daughter, you should be able to do it without a lawyer.**Just call the county juvenile court of common pleas and explain your situation. They'll be able to tell you what to do.**Good Luck!Shannon



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SKole10668@aol.com

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I used to be in the Navy as a corpsman and my husband still is. He is hospital Staff working at the clinic.****I don't know what information you recieved so far on giving up custodyof your child. I know that that you don't give up custody, that is a fact,you do however have to sign a child/dependency care certificate, what thisis, is in case of a actual deployment or if Clinton sends troops some where(this is a big &quot;if&quot; ) deployment in the Navy is almost never happens unlessyou are assigned to a carrier group that is being deployed to the med orsomething. I wouldn't worry about losing custody, the person you sign to bethe back-up child dependency care provider/your husband or if your notmarried your parents, who ever you choose, what this means is that if youwere to deploy that you have someone to take care of your child while youare gone, you wouldn't want to up and have to leave and have no one to carefor your child. Its the Navy's way of making sure your child gets**takencare of if you should deploy-this doesn't happen usually but in the militaryyou have to be prepared for anything to come about.****It's no big deal I had to when I had my daughter because we were bothactive duty at the same time and if we both got deployed someone had towatch my daughter while I was gone, they don't get soul custody, this isn'ta legal court action thing, think of it like a baby sitter while your gone.****I wouldn't think of that anyway it's just a form you have to sign, whenyou go to boot-camp here at Great Lakes, you will need someone to watch yourdaughter till you graduate boot-camp, and during your schooling if you get aA-School- I reccommend you do.****I have worked in Navy hospitals all over and my husband still does, andi don't believe that having a under active thiroid is a means for notallowing you in the Navy- you just take your medication everyday for it soit's not a problem, and I know of some people who have the same thing andthey are still in the Navy with it. If your recruiter told you other wise heis wrong, unless they don't allow you to come in with it, but I don't knowof anyone not allowing to come in with it, it doesn't stop you from beingable to do the run and stuff. My husband said he doesn't know of any reasonswhy you cant come in with it and he is around the recruits who are justcoming to boot-and doing their records and processing them in.****I would suggest you don't say anything untill you get to boot with thisproblem you have, once you are here they won't kick you out, but telling therecruiter may keep you from joining, just don't tell him and when you doyour meps physical to get in don't write it down or tell the doctor, theywon't know, but when you show up at the clinic and you get seen tellthem and that you forgot to say anything, trust me it works tons of recruitshave done it, told something they didn't put down on their physical at meps.****I think if you join the Navy its the best way to go to support yourselfand your child/free medical and when you complete your school and get toyour first duty station you will be able to get to live in housing or out intown they give you money for this and bring your child to live with you, youjust have to put her in day care and I'm sure you know that, the Navyhousing provides facilities for day care at each base, we have like 4 here,I have my daughter on a waiting**list for one because I am looking atworking on base.****best of luck and the Navy supports you and gives you everything youneed, it's a challenge sometimes, don't get me wrong sometimes it's b.s.but it's what you make of it.ALEXIS



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jaskris@ameritech.net

[Anonymous]

Hi, Tami,****I kind of gave you the wrong information on giving up custody andguardianship of your child.****This is how it is, I found out through the proper channels where myfamily is stationed.****The Navy states that while undergoing boot-camp training and during yourA- school or Apprentice training etc... that you have to have a Power ofAttorney or someone to have Legal Guardianship over your child during thistransition. When you complete your training meaning boot-camp and school ifyou have one, then you can get your child. If however you do not trust yourhusband don't give him full legal custody of your child because goingthrough the Navy's boot you lose custody. I do however suggest you sign aPower of Attorney to someone you trust, this is a legal document that statesthat someone you write their name to it that watches your child will onlyhave custody for the time you are in Boot and school etc... not after/youset the time frame with a Power of Attorney, this is suggested a betterroute for you because this is not a binding legal guardianship document justa legal form that lets you go to boot and then get to have custody of yourchild afterwords. Some people go the legal guardianship route and leavetheir kids with mom and dad or someone they trust and then get theirkids/however if I was in your situation and I had no one to trust or if I dothe Power of Attorney is safe, and you don't lose custody at all.****I gave you the wrong info. I didn't have my daughter prior to joining, Ihad her after I was in for a year. I didn't know that the Navy had thispolicy, I think its wrong, if it were me I would do the Power of Attorney,see most recruiters don't tell the person joining of that route/not becasuethey don't want to they just don't know they are used to going through thelegal guardianship route, but I was just informed that you can do bothoptions. I think this policy sucks because once you are in and want to havea baby they don't make you do that you just sign a dependent carecertificate, so this is new to me.****See we learn things new everyday, I had to find out because I knew thatI had gotten the wrong information.****I hope this helps and don't let that discourage you from joining,because once you graduate boot and school you just get your kid back**andsign a dependent care certificate, I don't know why that is I am not sure,no one can tell me, maybe it's to cover the Navy's A** if you know what Imean.****Sorry for the wrong information/Alexis--good luck!!!



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jaskris@ameritech.net