Anonymous
04-15-1999, 02:28 AM
Hello. I have never met you or your husband, so I don't know the whole situation, so I'll just tell you the impression I got from the message you posted. I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but your husband is an adult and should be able to take care of himself. Are you willing to give up your dream career to look after him? Every marriage requires compromise, but particularly military marriages because they so often endure added stresses, like separations. The good news is that the hard part is over...after basic and AIT, as a reservist you will be home most of the time. Before you up and quit your job or he ups and quits your marriage, try to meet each other half-way. Counselling is a very good way to sit down and talk about it without it always turning into a fight. "Having it all" is tough but certainly not impossible, and it IS worth it. I wish you all the best, Gail.