Harrassment, charges, and being swept under, help

[Anonymous]

I am going through a court martial, I am the victim, and all that is being done is for the attacker. It seems they are out to protect the armies name, and doing for me. Others have been victims but afraid to come forward. They have pushed me mentally, harrassed me and freind on the job, spread lies and stories, threatened and harressed friends, lined up so called witnesses who will lie, I have had a mental breakdown due to the stress and ongoing length and circumstances they have put in my path, I can't sleep, I don't eat, have nightmares, lost 10+lb., can't go outside, or in crowds, everytime I start to get back up, someone else , medical or other is cutting my throat, leaking information, etc. I feel I am being shafted all the way around because I am the new person, and after being repeatedly asked if I am sure I want to press charges, made my mind up to do what was right, for my sake and I thought it would give others the courage to come forward, now I know why no one has come forward. They have ruined my work record, my reputation, my health both physically and mentally, my social life, my respect for the military and justice, and has effected my relationships with long time friends and family.

I have no place to turn, no refuge, and I don't want to just give up, but I feel I don't have much strenth left.

Sinking !!!!!!

[Anonymous]

: I am going through a court martial, I am the victim, and all that is being
: done is for the attacker. It seems they are out to protect the armies
: name, and doing for me. Others have been victims but afraid to come
: forward. They have pushed me mentally, harrassed me and freind on the job,
: spread lies and stories, threatened and harressed friends, lined up so
: called witnesses who will lie, I have had a mental breakdown due to the
: stress and ongoing length and circumstances they have put in my path, I
: can't sleep, I don't eat, have nightmares, lost 10+lb., can't go outside,
: or in crowds, everytime I start to get back up, someone else , medical or
: other is cutting my throat, leaking information, etc. I feel I am being
: shafted all the way around because I am the new person, and after being
: repeatedly asked if I am sure I want to press charges, made my mind up to
: do what was right, for my sake and I thought it would give others the
: courage to come forward, now I know why no one has come forward. They have
: ruined my work record, my reputation, my health both physically and
: mentally, my social life, my respect for the military and justice, and has
: effected my relationships with long time friends and family.
:
: I have no place to turn, no refuge, and I don't want to just give up, but I
: feel I don't have much strenth left.
:
: Sinking !!!!!!


dvmt@kawartha.com

[Anonymous]

:


I know exactly how you feel and I wish there was something that I could do for you. I went through all the harassment and mistreatment you are talking about, however I did not charge my attackers. I do have a 1888 number if you would like to talk. I have formed a group called Survivors Take Action of Abuse from Military Personnel. You can call at 1-888-771-9117. If anyone else has been through this and would like to call this number feel free. I think it is important to have a support group for people like you. Remember it is not your fault. Or e-mail me dvmt@kawartha.com.

I am going through a court martial, I am the victim, and all that is being
: done is for the attacker. It seems they are out to protect the armies
: name, and doing for me. Others have been victims but afraid to come
: forward. They have pushed me mentally, harrassed me and freind on the job,
: spread lies and stories, threatened and harressed friends, lined up so
: called witnesses who will lie, I have had a mental breakdown due to the
: stress and ongoing length and circumstances they have put in my path, I
: can't sleep, I don't eat, have nightmares, lost 10+lb., can't go outside,
: or in crowds, everytime I start to get back up, someone else , medical or
: other is cutting my throat, leaking information, etc. I feel I am being
: shafted all the way around because I am the new person, and after being
: repeatedly asked if I am sure I want to press charges, made my mind up to
: do what was right, for my sake and I thought it would give others the
: courage to come forward, now I know why no one has come forward. They have
: ruined my work record, my reputation, my health both physically and
: mentally, my social life, my respect for the military and justice, and has
: effected my relationships with long time friends and family.
:
: I have no place to turn, no refuge, and I don't want to just give up, but I
: feel I don't have much strenth left.
:
: Sinking !!!!!!

dvmt@kawartha.com

[Anonymous]

Dear Anxious,

Thank you for having the courage to tell your story to all of us.

It sounds awful what you went through and I hope that everything works out in the end. I don't blame you at all for being scared and anxious of getting out there.

Even though I have never been in the army (in the process of applying right now) I have been sexually harassed by someone who was in an authority position over me. At the time, I was ashamed so i didnt speak up but in the end, even though i got not support from my own family, i stood up for myself. it was tough but i learned a lot from it and came out a stronger person in the end, no matter how cliche that may sound right now.

you can do it and you will. we believe in you.

[seinse]

Dear anxious,
I can sympatize with you and your situation but all i can say is you are a very brave woman and don't let anyone make you feel ashame or that you did wrong.Same situation happened to me in 1982,I did not bring charges on my attacker as i felt ashamed and did not want to bring attention to my situation.At 22 years of age a was a virgin and believed in my faith was teased for that.I had seen a rape case in court a couple of years earlier in a civilian court while i was in college.The way they treated that poor girl brought back memories and i did not want that for myself.I've seen how some male military treated women.I got ill was hospitalized for couple of months.The stress got to me and i decides to leave.I never told anyone what happened.It's been 25 years now i still think of it I regret leaving I wish i would have the guts to tell.I wish you all the best,be strong.God bless.

[seinse]

Dear anxious,
I can sympatize with you and your situation but all i can say is you are a very brave woman and don't let anyone make you feel ashame or that you did wrong.Same situation happened to me in 1982,I did not bring charges on my attacker as i felt ashamed and did not want to bring attention to my situation.At 22 years of age a was a virgin and believed in my faith was teased for that.I had seen a rape case in court a couple of years earlier in a civilian court while i was in college.The way they treated that poor girl brought back memories and i did not want that for myself.I've seen how some male military treated women.I got ill was hospitalized for couple of months.The stress got to me and i decides to leave.I never told anyone what happened.It's been 25 years now i still think of it I regret leaving I wish i would have the guts to tell.I wish you all the best,be strong.God bless.