Quick Question

[Anonymous]

Hi ladies! I am in the process of completing the mountain of paperwork needed to go to OCS. I am totally dedicated to becoming a Marine (why on Earth would I get up at 4:30 a.m. to run if I wasn't?), but there is one little problem. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years HATES the idea. Anytime I mention the Marines or watch the Military channel on T.V., he has a temper tantrum. We are serious, have been living together for about a year, but have not yet really discussed marraige (something I am not personally ready for). He has told me he is NOT moving anywhere with me and will not have a long-distance relationship. I really care about him though. If I have to choose, I'm going to choose the Marines, but has anyone had similar circumstances or any advice on how to make this any easier? Just to get him off my back, I have stopped talking to him about it, but it is so hard not to have his support. Thanks for taking time to read this.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear of your ordeal. It's hard not to have the support of those you love. While I don't have a boyfriend, I'm also having a hard time telling my family that I plan to join the Marine Corp because they might also withhold their support.

I think that you'll have to decide what is best for you and prepare for the fact that you might have to break up with your boyfriend. It's not always easy to pursue your dreams, so my heart and sympathy goes out to you. I wish you the best of luck and hope that your boyfriend loves you enough to eventually learn to support you, regardless of your decision.

[usa/usar13]

Just wanted to wish you the very best now, and in the future. You go girl! :) :) :)

and remember, take it one day at a time.

[MCIWS Sgt]

I had this problem when I joined in 1997, my boyfriend was a Marine and was station in NC when I signed up. He was furious at me. He eventually got over it and was even a little proud. We broke up for other reasons later on down the line, but his lack of support and his condescending attitude was a big factor of why I left him. If he loves you he has to love all of you. Good for you for sticking by your heart. Too many females follow a man around and never live their life. When I told my Dad I was joining, and asked him for his thoughts, he said "do you want to look back and say I wish I would have"? I never want to live the life of "I wish" it is so much better to live a life of "I did". My boyfriend now is great. He is a Marine as well. We have been together for 5 years. Tell your boyfriend that if he can't handle it, then there is someone else out there who will love you for wanting to serve this great country! Good Luck.
Sgt D