This is not about what you want, but rather what is best for the military. Whether you like it or not, you are a woman, and by law, your are prohibited from serving in direct ground combat units. You could be Wonder Woman and you still would be prohibited because that is the law of the land. That does not mean that the law can't or won't change, it just means that this isn't about you.
If you had study at all the history of women in the military, then you would have the answer to your own question. Opportunity presents itself and people, whether men or women, arise to the occasion. Prior to 1994 women were restricted by what was called the risk rule, I won't go into it, you look it up and learn. However, that rule was changed, not because of an individual, but because of the performance of women who had been deployed in support MOSs.
You are very quick to dismiss pogues, yet you have no idea what being in a support MOS requires. Every support MOS has was is called a secondary mission, which in most cases becomes their primary mission in a combat situation. That mission entails what is needed for combat. Keep in mind also, that no matter what rank or what MOS you hold, when you go through any type of leadership course, the emphasis of that course is centered around combat. These support MOSs become the example of what can be done and in what circumstances.
You seem to think that going into combat requires only strength and the will to fight, but it is much more than that. You have to know tactics, understand the enemy, understand the command, and understand your fellow soldiers. Your attitude is all one of me and that will get you killed every time. You have to have the trust of that squad to which you are assigned and be able to read what their strengths and weaknesses are. You say that you desire to be Special Forces, but you wouldn't be accepted because you can't see beyond yourself. To get into Special Forces requires more than just being physically fit, you must also be mentally fit. I am sure the LTC Bailey can verify what I am going to say and that is that even among men, the acceptance rate into Special Forces is very low and graduation rate can be low in numbers also. It takes a special person to be Special Forces. Even to become a Ranger is not an easy task. Don't even get me started on Navy SEALs or Delta Force, but in each of these specialties you must better than the best.
I am also not saying that you wouldn't qualify to be infantry, but I am saying that at this point in time, you cannot. There are a lot of things in this life that are not fair, but change doesn't come from saying if I can't play I'm going to take my ball and go home. Change comes from sticking it out during the hard times and working towards a better tomorrow. It doesn't matter if you are a PT goddess who has the brains of Einstein, if you don't have the trust of your comrades in arms, then you become a liability rather than an asset. Believe me there are plenty of women in the military that are all this and more and no they don't accept completely that they are not allowed into certain areas. That is why there are groups out there that are working towards change and they base much of what they use for argument directly on proven performance of women who have been or are in the service.
I believe that women will serve in combat and the time will be in the not so distant future. Maybe ten to twenty years from now, but it will come because there are women on the ground that are serving above and beyond the call of duty. I also know enough about the military to know that if this change comes, there are many things that it will affect and issues that have to be addressed before it can happen.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.