divorced,single mom looking to join Navy
I am a 26-yr old single mom with a 2-year old son. I am currently in college working on a bachelors degree but am struggling otherwise. i want to be in the medical /administrative field. I know I can only go in as reserves and after 3 years if i choose i can go active duy. everything has been completed accept choosing a job. i need a guaranteed retirement and job stability basically i could use all the benefits the military has to offer. my problem now is my ex-husband won't sign my family care plan for my mom to take care of him while i'm gone for basic and school. I have my sisters' help also. we have joint custody, we alternate hoilidays and he gets him every other weekend. I even compromise to letting get more time in as extra day or two every week while im gone but he wants full custody. It's bad enough that i'm gone, i do not want to completely change my son's whole home environment. he is use to being with my mom and sis since i had to work two jobs. my mom is retired she could look after him with no issues. my ex works, so his mom would have to watch him and she takes medication for her mental illness. I DO NOT trust that! so he is threatning to try for full custody if I leave. Does he have this power? my recruiter said i cant go pick my job and find out the duration of everything until he signs. I also ask my recruiter if I will be doing ship duty ccause that out of the question. he said no not on reserves, is that true? please any advice or help!