The Military Woman'

Husbands, significant others, here's your place to tell us about life with a military woman.

My wife and I have been married 22 years. For 21 of those years, my wife has been in the army. I tried working as we moved from station to station, but it became difficult for us as well as our son. We decided that it would be better if I stayed home and taught my son who is now 17 years old. We have all turned into the military family who likes to travel and see the world. My wife enlisted as a PFC and now she is a captain. It has been stressful at times, but we both never regretted our decisions and our son has grown up to be a very nice boy with many worldly experiences.

I met my wife while I was in high school-- on vacation of all places! We kept in touch and soon found ourselves exchanging vows by a quiet stream that runs through a nearby park. That was the happiest day of my life.

While in college, she had decided to go the ROTC route while I was strictly "non-military." I have had to accept a "dependant" roll in our lives, and this is sometimes hard. We have learned that next year we will be stationed in Germany. For her, this is a great chance to expand her career, while for me, it's closer to "starting all over again." While I am very proud of my wife's accomplishments (and she continues to make me VERY proud!) this is a hard thing for me. How can I get comfortable in life if I am always starting over every couple of years? I am, however, getting very excited about going to Germany. What a great opportunity!

I guess what I am trying to say is, yeah, being married to a military woman leaves me as the "man" with many things I can't control. But I know that the more that I accept of our situation, the easier it will be for me (and us). My wife makes me so extremely proud! How many other husbands can say they have a wife that is airborne qualified, 300+ PT scores and top 5% of her class? Not many! And if the only way my girl will come is with a pair of combat boots, that's fine with me...I didn't marry her for her feet! So .... bring on the stiens der bier! (is that right? :) )

My wife has just joined the U.S. Army and I am very proud of her. We have been married for 8 years and I still think she is an absolutely amazing woman. We were both fairly settled into counseling careers in Tennessee when we found out from a relative that the Army accepted Social Workers. Due to a disability (I can't use my right hand, the military sort of expects you to salute) I could not join, but Cheryl was very interested. We now reside in the greater FT.Hood area of Texas. I have begun a web page about her new career if anyone is interested. http://www.geocities.com/Pentagon/Quarters/9633/

I like the home page, great subjects, lots of information. I just wanted to say that I always had a lot of respect for my wife for putting up with the military life and the moving and taking care of the kids as well as the household. So needless to say what my opinion of a woman/wife/mother who is also in the military is: great job.

I met my wife in 1972 and we married in 1973. I got out - she stayed in. We were the first "mixed" couple to hit Naples, Italy in 1975. They didn't know what to do with me. She was the first active duty woman to give birth in Naples - the nurses surrounded her bed and applauded!! I loved being Mr. Mom to our son. He always had a parent around for his first 2 1/2 yrs of life. It's an experience most father's don't get. My wife and I had decide long ago that the kids would be settled in their permanent school by 9th grade, so when the Army decided Korea was next, she went and I stayed home with a 13 and 4 yr old! Lonely, but a good year. My wife (and I) retired from the Army in 1991 and are reaping the benefits now!

Glad to see that there are more of you out there who are as proud of their wives as I am of mine.

Do any of you ever get frustrated when you cannot fight your wife's battles against the Navy's anti-female mentality. there are times I want to climb a wall and scream when I see what the Navy does to my wife in terms of getting plain equal treatment under their own rules.

I've been doing the Mr. Mom thing for almost 9 years and it shows. Most of it has been good to great, but here it's the pits.

My name is Wayne Cook. I am the male equivalent of the Navy wife. At times I get very upset with the Navy, for taking my wife (Kathi) from me. It is events like when she found out that she had made rank of 1st Class Radioman (Dec 97), that I feel very proud of her. She is one sharp looking woman in her service dress blues, and at times gets me all goose bumps with pride!! She is not aware I am making this page for her, as she is away this weekend on another Navy Drill. She feels what she is doing is right and should be done for this great country we live in, and for that I must support her, in her endeavor. Because she made 1st class I have created this page as my way of saying congratulations to one super woman.(sort of like a Navy Hoooorah!!!). My feelings for this great woman, sailor, and life-mate is best summed up here: http://members.tripod.com/~stationmaster/navyrm1.html -- this is my tribute to her making rate of Petty Officer 1st Class in USNR, it is about her hard work in the USNR for the past 11 years. Kathi you do me proud!!!!!

As all men who are fortunate to be blessed with a wonderful mate, I as well am pleased to tell those in ear (e-mail) shot about her...LT J.A. Daniels

We met in Orlando, Fl., while she was an instructor at one the schools, I just recently moved to the area pursuing my golf club professional career and was employed at the base golf course...

5' nothing and strong willed, back by the intelligence to rationalize the difference had me spinning...by this time she's sizing me up for the next step...we were married at Stefanos a local Italian restaurante...

The decision was easy, I left my job not to mention the warmer weather as we made the military move to Norfolk...two years later... how she ever made it through the midnight watches, 3 mos overseas deployment and remodeling the house still amazes me...

Yet she always is standing next to me encouraging, supporting my professional pursuits...

I met my wife at NavCommSta Norfolk Va. She was an YNSN and I was an RM2 (Yeoman)(RadioMan). She completed fours years active service while I went on to make the service a career, finishing up at 21 yrs. I really feel the four years that she did, made her a very knowledgeable person who used her abilities in life to bring two sons into this world, raise them while I was away on different tours overseas. Her strengths surely maintained our family as a unit and kept us together where a person of lesser qualities would have floundered hopelessly. Now after 31 years of marriage, I know I got the best of deal, don't know how she credits the longevity. Wouldn't trade her for a million.

The Military Woman's "Other Half"